How do you celebrate when you haven’t even met the very person that’s going to be sharing all of the presents with you? You have an Adoption Shower, of course. Well, an #AMOdoption Shower, to be exact!
Last night, my former housemates, David & Lauren, hosted an incredible evening filled with dear friends, delicious desserts, and dozens of treasures that will be used to create a home that Kiddo can call their own . . . when they get here!
During the party, I got a chance to celebrate the beauty of family and parenthood with a large group of people who have helped me to get from one point on the journey to the other. They’ve believed in me and supported me every step along the way—with encouragement, with prayer, with listening ears, with generous monetary gifts, and with a ‘tribal’ sense of belonging. Being surrounded by such a lovely family of friends during one of the most exciting and unknown seasons of my life was just what I needed while I play ‘The Waiting Game.’ I shared with those attending that I have finally completed the Home Studies and my Specialist has sent my Home Study Report to the State Licensor for review and approval. The approval process should take anywhere from 2 weeks to 1 mont, but considering that I’m looking to foster-adopt a teenager, it’s anticipated that it will be closer to 2 weeks than the entire month. During this time, my Specialist has already sent off my completed Home Study to the social worker of a child that I’m currently interested in adopting from the Northwest Adoption Exchange. After approval from both the State Licensor and the child’s social worker, we’ll have a Family Team Meeting that I will attend with my Specialist, the child’s social worker, and current foster family to discuss best practices for transition and also—most importantly—to learn a little more about the child (background, location, interests, additional specifics), so that we can have a successful transition when they move in with me about 2 weeks later. As of now, we are anticipating a placement (day that the child comes into my home to stay) of mid-late September!
Being a parent is something I’ve always dreamed of and anticipated with open arms, but now it’s all coming so seemingly fast and my excitement level is through the roof! I consider it an honor to be a parent. While I know that stepping into this role will be equal parts challenging and blessed, I have no true fears walking into it. Sure I have natural concerns—will they understand how much they’re loved & valued? will they enjoy living with me? will they find their voice in this family and see me as a parent they can trust? My biggest prayer and dream for this season of my life is to help my Kiddo understand their value and to choose to live life with purpose as a well-rounded human being who doesn’t let circumstances prevent them from being the best version of themselves. I find complete confidence and encouragement in knowing that this family of friends that I’ve surrounded myself with in Seattle is ready and willing to join me in doing just that!
I’ll admit, I wasn’t sure what an “Adoption Shower” would look like, since I wasn’t actually giving birth or celebrating a marriage, but rather preparing to welcome in a great teen that I’ve never met before. Still, my mind was blown not just by the sweet encouragements and laughs shared during the night, but by the overwhelming supply of housewares and gift cards that will help provide a greater sense of well-being for Kiddo. What’s even greater is that I know how much love, thought, and care was put in choosing gifts and writing cards that touched my heart. My friends are seriously the best!
And now, as I pick up last-minute items and get the house even more prepared for Kiddo’s arrival, I wait. Wait in prayer, believing that God is going to do great things through Kiddo and through this family. Wait in hope that all goes smoothly with the licensing and Family Team Meeting. Wait in love, ready to shower Kiddo with unconditional love and acceptance, more than willing to cover them in open arms. Wait in anticipation for the time to come when Kiddo finally gets to walk through the doors of my home and it officially becomes OUR home!
Many thanks to Lauren and David for hosting, and to everyone who attended! I also want to thank those who were unable to attend, but sent their well wishes and encouragements along. You all make my life so full!